When coolness not only doesn't work, but holds up progress.
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Whether they are likened to a creaky door hinge or tumultuous volcano, many friendships involve a degree of unavoidable drama. It’s as if heat is required in the furnace of love to finish the potter’s worked clay. And whilst refugees from tempestuous relationships swear off Saharan temperatures in favour of glacial coolness, it seems that warmth is what we truly seek.
Whereas relationships that are cool, calm and collected are sustainably safe, no one gets any time to hang out in Shangri-La. Instead of 2 hot spoons in a steamy dishwasher, bedtime is more like 2 ice cubes in the freezer. This is all anecdotal and allegorical, presented for dramatic effect, and based on cameo fragments from real-life stories. There is no recommended degree of coolness or hotness for a successful relationship. Indeed, there is no definition of success in this area at all. There is only the relationship.
From the point of view of the Oshana Enlightenment Transmission Teaching, relationships are far more than simply the coming together of hearts, minds, bodies for fun, profit and procreation. Before our physical bodies were created, forces were in motion to create huge, presently unimaginable outcomes via our coming together.
Drama is the by-product of working out our differences, hence understanding the Enlightenment Transmission and what it prompts us to do. Heat is the catalyst; coolness is the dampener. In the furnace, impurities are boiled off but only when melting point has been reached.
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